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Just when do you let a child "go" into the world without holding his/her hand every step of the way?
Li'l Man has a new friend that apparently can be a "menace." He's always been very respectful to me, my children and possessions so...
He's being raised by his grandparents. He is very "pushy"; he'll bug the shit out of people to get what he wants. Well why is that? `Cause geriatric persons shouldn't be raisin' no freakin' kids! They give into him because they just don't want to hear the whining and it gets him outta their hair. Well, he loves coming over here...wonder why? heh
So, I let my kids walk around the neighborhood. Hell, I walk all over this place! It is a nice enough neighborhood. Some streets are very busy; some aren't. Some areas are a little shady; some aren't...where we live isn't and we have a Neighborhood Watch of over 300!
I remember bein' a kid and ridin' my bike anywhere and some places we shouldn't. I wasn't allowed to go out as young as my brother and sister were but that was because I was the first. I would watch them and we had a blast!
When this boy is over, he wants to walk everywhere - to the park, just around the block; to his house and back. I'm cool wit' dat. Unfortunately, this boy's grandparents - grandmother in particular - has put into this boy's head ALL about molesters. This woman has told me she doesn't agree with me letting the kids walk around. Did I know this? Uh, no...but jeez! NaNa has told me all about the fact that there are over 63 child molesters in this area. Oddly enough, I looked up on the government database, rather than some "child protection" database, and there are 5 in the area...a 25 mile area.
There are all kinds of people that are kid unfriendly all over the world. Unfriendly for different reasons. It is just how it is. I can only give my kids the tools to "protect" themselves. But honestly, I can't protect them from everything even though I want to. It is one of my fears that my children will be snatched and hurt in someway. IF I got them back, all the work to heal them; to cope...terrifying.
But I can't live by fear. I want my kids to understand the dangers and to have a care and blah blah blah...they know - but I won't have them anxious and fearful. And I'm watching how this boy is being disobedient; looking for loopholes in the Rules. That tells me the Rules aren't effective...they need to be changed. A balance is necessary and disobedience must be addressed.
Well, he behaves and is respectful here...and he loves to be here...maybe he's found balance.
holla@me posted by MobiusRazor at 13:23