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I've been reading different articles discussing dumping friends. I agree in simplifying, however, I sometimes feel that our society is very fickle. As soon as it gets tough, people are giving up. There are times to 86 a friend but problems happen; crisis' occur. Some people don't like to focus on anyone but themselves.
For me, I've noticed that "throwing away" people is a defense when the person hits close to home. The discomfort of having a mirror put in front of you, especially by someone other than yourself, has caused good relationships to go bad. With me and my dude, we've realized that marriage, but it can go with any indepth relationship, is a study in human behavior. For every action is an equal and opposite reaction - Newton's 3rd Law. When the reaction happens, is it because of the mirror, the past, or you? When making a commitment to always be there through thick and thin, you can't just roll out when it gets tough. You start to see that Newton's Law's of Physics are working. They do indeed fit into human relationships. Anyway...

Having to call a friend on something, anything, is what I call the Fuck You Factor. It's when you show, confront, display a problem (and it must be something that has the potential of being destructive...on their life, a situation or to another. not something trivial) and, hopefully, the person being confronted can be objective and understand that you aren't saying it to hurt them, only to help. And in return, I expect to be confronted and my errors in judgment pointed out because I don't want to keep fuckin' up!

For me, being friends with someone is till the end. Good, bad, ugly. If we're friends, I love you. I don't have time for bullshit either. I've had to pick through a hell of a lot of false friends to get the awesome friends I have. And it may be strange, but when I feel a connection with someone, I ask them if they feel it too. And I tell them I don't have time for bullshit. haha, I want/need friends with strength because let's face facts, life is NOT rated G! I can handle birthdays and weddings and broken refrigerators. When something major is going down in my life, when my strength is low or failing, I need to know that my friends can show their strength.

And I didn't know until just about 2 years ago how important it is to have female friends. I've never been female friendly: a lot of "girls" have that cattiness that I just don't need. But now, I feel I have a solid core of girlfriends that are there for me and I feel so much more powerful and enriched because of them.
holla@me posted by MobiusRazor at 10:28